Open Gym Showers

Posted by Zora Stowers on Saturday, May 18, 2024

Who's a fan? Who hates them? What do you do when you find yourself next to an extremely well-built and well-hung man as I did earlier today?

What's the appropriate etiquette?

Is it one of the perks of being gay that we get to see naked men at the gym?

by Anonymousreply 82July 29, 2021 8:03 PM

Neither a fan nor a hater, they are what we have at my gym in Berlin and they are fine.

No matter who I find myself next to I say hello, wash myself and get on with my life.

by Anonymousreply 2November 21, 2019 5:14 PM

I never shower in public places and never see places with open showers

by Anonymousreply 3November 21, 2019 5:15 PM

Open showers are nearly extinct in US and only athletes and old men shower in public anymore

by Anonymousreply 4November 21, 2019 5:16 PM

[QUOTE]What do you do when you find yourself next to an extremely well-built and well-hung man as I did earlier today?

I like to think of my dead grandmother lying in her coffin. That always takes away the possibility of an unwanted erection.

by Anonymousreply 5November 21, 2019 5:17 PM

The Elderly Gym Troll is BACK.

by Anonymousreply 6November 21, 2019 5:19 PM

Love open showers. Been working out hard for a while and it's a real boost to get checked out by some of the guys. Surprisingly,, it's not the old guys so much checking me out, but some of the dedicated body builder guys. I also check them out, and some of them will take a ten minute shower for my benefit. Never had any sex, but who knows what will develop. I also sometimes walk to the showers from my locker with my towel over my shoulder, otherwise naked. Considering how out of shape I was, I really enjoy being naked in front of others. There is one older guy who actually told me out in the parking lot that he likes to look at me, and I make an effort to let him see as much as he wants. Sometimes, I deliberately get close enough for him to quietly feel my cock if he is so inclined. I remember when no one would look at me, and I couldn't get any sex to save my life, and I love to share my ass now.

by Anonymousreply 7November 21, 2019 5:21 PM

Outside of some YMCA I do not think there are so many in the US.

by Anonymousreply 10November 21, 2019 9:16 PM

[quote] What's the appropriate etiquette?

Proper etiquette is that if you see a hot bubble butt. you can gently pat it or have a quick squeeze (no more than 5 seconds). Light slaps are okay, but too hard is frowned upon.

Anything more than those free actions require that you must politely ask for permission.

by Anonymousreply 11November 21, 2019 9:23 PM

OP Proper etiquette? Think Smithsonian: Look, don't touch. Don't be too obvious by gazing too long, that is when it turns creep-show. I do enjoy the locker room and sneak peaks at times. At my club, there are small stalls sans curtains or doors, but one gets a glimpse nonetheless. A glass walled dry sauna opposite the steam room provides a view of three shower stalls as well.

by Anonymousreply 12November 21, 2019 10:11 PM

Bring back open gym showers. I love them. Open gym showers...when men were men, NOT paranoid towels dancers.

by Anonymousreply 13November 21, 2019 11:23 PM

[quote] What's the appropriate etiquette?

Just take your fucking shower and let him take his in peace.

by Anonymousreply 14November 21, 2019 11:27 PM

[quote] OP Proper etiquette? Think Smithsonian: Look, don't touch.

Wrong. See R11. Light touching IS allowed.

by Anonymousreply 15November 21, 2019 11:29 PM

Old creepers are obsessed with this. Times change

by Anonymousreply 16November 21, 2019 11:35 PM

R15 I think we each have an opinion, and belong to differentsorts of places. I for one have been touched, (towel snaps, pat on the bum) and do not care for it. None of them were remotely attractive to begin with, and secondly I don't frequent the club for this. This is an expensive private men's club (mainly straight) and isn't the place for these shenanigans. Chains exist with these reps, and the grabby types ought to seek them out.

It's fair to say unless you are in a gay place with such a reputation, best to keep one's hands to himself.

by Anonymousreply 17November 21, 2019 11:41 PM

Etiquette? See to your own ablutions, allow other men to do the same.

The number of old queens on DL who inexplicably feel they are absolutely entitled to some kind of intimate knowledge of strangers in a public space is incredible.

by Anonymousreply 18November 22, 2019 12:59 AM

When I was in junior high school, we swam naked in gym class. And if you're swimming naked, then of course there were open showers. My college dorms all had open group showers as well. You got to know your neighbors very well that way.

by Anonymousreply 19November 22, 2019 1:13 AM

[bold] The One That Shows Up Every Single Fucking Month Where Creepy Eldergays Whine About How Hot Young Guys Don't Let Them Leer At Their Cocks In The Locker Room Anymore And Blame It On Some Quirk Of Millennial Behavior [/bold]

by Anonymousreply 20November 22, 2019 1:17 AM

Aww, buttercup. That’s a lot of emotions you have, isn’t it?

No wonder no one likes you.

by Anonymousreply 21November 22, 2019 1:28 AM

I read too on this subject on LPSG and it was frustrated exhibitionist with no venue to show off in.

by Anonymousreply 22November 22, 2019 8:56 AM

R1 no I attend a non-chain gym that's frequented by a lot of students, most of whom do not shower so I typically have the showers to myself, it was an unusual situation yesterday where there was a sudden influx of middle-aged squash players and the only available shower space was next to the aforementioned built guy. I'm not a creeper but it's not exactly easy as a gay man to be next to a hot naked guy and avoid looking. Especially when they are not exactly trying to be modest.

by Anonymousreply 23November 22, 2019 9:35 AM

I’m not a fan, but I don’t hate them either. The ones that are set up like open barnyard stalls, I notice more people making an effort to stare. It’s a busy place, so no one else hogs a shower long anyways.

by Anonymousreply 24November 23, 2019 10:21 AM

Chelsea Gym closed in the late 90s. They had open showers. A number of porn stars from that era. It was fun to look. I was teaching there at the time so I didn't partake. The young gays are so worried to even take their towel off in front of another man. Sad.

by Anonymousreply 25November 23, 2019 10:36 AM

I work for a university and honestly resent when I don’t have the entire shower corral to myself. I know: Mary!

The locker room is never busy unless a visiting wrestling or swim team takes it over. They’re hot but I still find myself wishing they’d shut the fuck up and get out of my way.

by Anonymousreply 26November 23, 2019 12:15 PM

A lot of the shy younger guys at my gym have a method of putting their underwear on under their towel after a shower. Kinda comical. sometimes they lose their balance and fall over!

by Anonymousreply 27November 23, 2019 11:16 PM

Few young guys even go to the lockerroom at my gym

by Anonymousreply 28November 23, 2019 11:54 PM

There are not enough of these, unfortunately.

by Anonymousreply 29January 9, 2020 1:35 PM

Open showers, only!

I have no use for Towel Dancing Millennials. To Hell with them all.

by Anonymousreply 30January 9, 2020 1:45 PM

This is one of those wells that DL comes back to time and time again.

by Anonymousreply 31January 9, 2020 1:47 PM

And I’m quite confident they have no use for you, r30.

by Anonymousreply 32January 9, 2020 1:48 PM

[quote]A lot of the shy younger guys at my gym have a method of putting their underwear on under their towel after a shower.

And that *is* the towel dance, n'est-ce pas?

by Anonymousreply 33January 9, 2020 2:00 PM

As a bona fide eldergay, I don’t get this obsession with showing off in the locker room and showers. At my YMCA there are relatively few young guys any more, and the elder ones are the same tired faces and cocks we have seen for years. I don’t pay any attention to my fellow altecockers, and really don’t give a shit whether the younger guys walk around naked or not.

Which is not to say that I don’t appreciate the occasional glimpse of a nice ass and equipment on a hot guy, but Jesus, it isn’t 1980 anymore!

by Anonymousreply 35January 9, 2020 3:03 PM

The Vanderbilt YMCA on E47th used to have them when I was a member years ago. Wonder if they still do or if they've updated??

by Anonymousreply 36January 9, 2020 3:14 PM

They still do r36. Two sets of open showers. The back area is where the dudes who like to show off are.

by Anonymousreply 37January 9, 2020 3:17 PM

In Germany they are all open and we do not care. It is an FKK culture.

by Anonymousreply 38January 9, 2020 3:23 PM

R35 Yes.

SF resident here and the tech gentrification has really chilled out the lockerroom cruising culture here and actually for the better.

I joined the "gayest" gym chain here (Fitness SF) 10 years ago while it was still under the Gold's franchise. They left Golds during the CA marriage election initiative as Golds' owner supported the opposition financially.

Ironically enough the brand then did away with the steamrooms in the two gayest locations. Only Castro has open showers now and its sad to see the parade of overtly desperate horndogs in there of all sizes, shapes, and ages.

Even sadder when they go to probably the crappiest location with the worst equipment just for the shower show.

Go back to 1978.

by Anonymousreply 39January 9, 2020 3:29 PM

This reminds me of DL threads in the past about "gang" shower rooms. Did anyone really use that term? Ha.

Anyway, yes, younger generations of American men are now being taught that being looked at by strangers, much less leered at, without consent, is sexual harassment and/or assault. Plain and simple. Their parents and teachers teach them to assert these barriers from an early age.

by Anonymousreply 40January 9, 2020 3:49 PM

When I was a kid in the 80s and 90s, I found it totally horrifying, old men walking around naked. When I went to boarding school in the late 90s, there was ONE kid in my dorm who tried walking around naked once, that was shut down right fast. All the pervs with that creepy old man sense of entitlement hoping and praying for a return to 1950s standards so they can leer at young men who want nothing to do with them are going to their graves disappointed.

by Anonymousreply 41January 9, 2020 3:54 PM

Even back in the late 80s, the shower room at my university was not the place for exhibitionists or leering. The sauna, on the other hand...

by Anonymousreply 43January 9, 2020 4:02 PM

I strongly associate open shower rooms with prison rape.

by Anonymousreply 44January 9, 2020 4:05 PM

"I joined the "gayest" gym chain here (Fitness SF) ....... Only Castro has open showers now and its sad to see the parade of overtly desperate horndogs in there of all sizes, shapes, and ages."

I used to love that gym. Back in the 90s, a hot guy and i were chatting in the showers. He pointed out that he'd just gotten a Prince Albert, and when I asked him how he liked it, he offered to fuck me with it. It was just as casual as if he'd offered to spot an exercise for me. Ah, San Francisco.

by Anonymousreply 45January 9, 2020 4:10 PM

I"ve been part of many private gyms over the years. No one had a communal shower

by Anonymousreply 46January 9, 2020 4:26 PM

[quote] when I asked him how he liked it, he offered to fuck me with it. It was just as casual as if he'd offered to spot an exercise for me. Ah, San Francisco.

Did you take him up on the offer?

by Anonymousreply 47January 9, 2020 4:27 PM

R47, sadly, no. I was too scared it would break a condom. Wish I could go back....

by Anonymousreply 48January 9, 2020 4:32 PM

Proper etiquette is if you make him get a chubby, you have to finish him off.

by Anonymousreply 49January 9, 2020 4:59 PM

One gym I belonged to had 2 bays of open showers to the left and right, and in the middle was a large sunken hot tub. Prime viewing for all involved if one desired.

by Anonymousreply 50January 9, 2020 8:08 PM

R38 I remember the open shower in Germany and whilst under the shower it wouldn’t be uncommon for someone to ask me for some showergel or shampoo. It’s a good thing when people don’t feel shame about being naked.

by Anonymousreply 51August 24, 2020 8:41 PM

I just openly flirt with any hot naked guy, or even just any hot guy, I come across. Best case scenario is you nab 30 minutes with a straight guy who's open to experimentation and worst case scenario is they get uncomfortable and walk away. As long as you live in a big, northern city and you don't hit on any POC it's relatively safe and usually worth it. Even if they turn you down they're flattered.

by Anonymousreply 52August 24, 2020 9:21 PM

[quote]What's the appropriate etiquette?

Make short video clips of the guy and share them with us.

by Anonymousreply 53August 24, 2020 9:25 PM

The old 24 Hour Fitness in Long Beach had the best open gang shower room. This was in the 90s. There were about 12 shower heads. You could barely see in from the hallway. Just nod to a guy and the next thing you know you'r soaping eachother up. Everybody joined in. Good mix of races and ages. Ahhhh. To be young again.

by Anonymousreply 54August 24, 2020 9:34 PM

The most gym shower I’ve ever seen is the one at the spa at Caesars. It’s basically a column of water in the middle of a room.

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by Anonymousreply 56July 18, 2021 2:39 PM

delight for all the senses

by Anonymousreply 57July 18, 2021 2:42 PM

Loved them when I was younger.

First time was at an Olympic swimming pool when I was 16. Sometimes I’d see beautiful 30 something year old guys who looked hot as hell. A few times they’d hit on me after swimming. I also learned to avoid the old geezers.

Then it was at NYU Coles Gym. Now there I had so much fun cause it was all guys my age. But I also hooked up with two professors there too. The hookups would mostly happen after we left. It was more like flirting in there.

Now I’m at Equinox where there’s no group showers but people like showing off their bodies like Hell. Well I haven’t been to Equinox since pandemic but once we actually go back to normal I’ll renew my membership.

by Anonymousreply 58July 18, 2021 2:59 PM

OP, gyms are for improving your health and fitness. Showers are for washing up afterwards. Puerile sexualizing is for armchair pervs who are incapable of the first two,

by Anonymousreply 59July 18, 2021 3:14 PM

Nah, r59, gyms are for posing and showers are for peeking. Seeing straight dick is one of the fun little perks of being gay.

Get it together, bitch.

by Anonymousreply 60July 18, 2021 4:56 PM

My favorite part of The Swimming Pool Library is the utopian gay gym with the shower room full of hard-ons. Of course its an 80s book, but still fun. Too bad everyone is too woke now.

by Anonymousreply 61July 18, 2021 6:33 PM

Open gym showers went with the coming of long board shorts for the beach. Mild homophobia.

by Anonymousreply 62July 19, 2021 5:47 AM

Why? R58, Equinox hates gays and support trump, why are u a gay traitor?

by Anonymousreply 63July 19, 2021 6:40 AM

Equinox as a whole does not hate gays or support the former guy. Don't exaggerate what happened. The guy who hosted the fundraiser is the chairman of the finance company that owns Equinox. I know from working there that they're very separate entities.

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by Anonymousreply 64July 23, 2021 12:58 PM

The mere existence of an open shower was traumatising enough to discourage me from involving myself in gym class anymore than I had to.

by Anonymousreply 65July 23, 2021 1:01 PM

This thread is useless without photos...

by Anonymousreply 66July 23, 2021 1:02 PM

OP, I could not agree with you more.

by Anonymousreply 67July 23, 2021 1:04 PM

Lots of creepy old fags in this post

by Anonymousreply 68July 23, 2021 3:38 PM

Castro FitnessSF has an open communal shower and it’s no big deal. But then again, we are sexually evolved here and don’t equate nudity with sex.

by Anonymousreply 69July 23, 2021 3:51 PM

I think most guys, gay, straight, old or young, get a bit of a thrill from being naked in front of others in the lockerroom.

by Anonymousreply 70July 23, 2021 6:28 PM

[quote] Castro FitnessSF has an open communal shower and it’s no big deal. But then again, we are sexually evolved here and don’t equate nudity with sex.

Don't be so boastful. The Puritans don't equate sex with nudity either.

by Anonymousreply 71July 23, 2021 10:55 PM

R63 I don't want to see Trump in the gym showers.

by Anonymousreply 72July 24, 2021 1:17 AM

I remember the days when I was showering between two rows of hard-ons; it was wonderful. Bring back the open showers please

by Anonymousreply 73July 24, 2021 1:51 AM

I was in an open gym shower just last week. After my workout I went to rinse out, somewhat thankful the shower was empty. Not but 3 minutes later, while I was all lathered up, 4 guys appeared, all built like a brick shit house. Before I could blink an eye, they had me down on all fours, taking their turn entering my virgin pink rosebud. I tried to protest, but it felt so good. As they were spit roasting me, the gym manager walked in and i though.. thank god! He is going to break this up, revoke gym memberships, etc. But no, he had other plans for me. Soon his arm was up in me, elbow deep, waving me around like some meat puppet. The other guys were supportive, wiping my brow, holding my hand, offering me seminal fluids to stay hydrated. Afterwards, we all went out for pancakes. I felt like one of guys for the first time. I never let on that I was bleeding through my Lululemon shorts. I just wanted to belong.

by Anonymousreply 74July 24, 2021 2:08 AM

Communal showers are the best. They allow men to not be so goddamn paranoid about nudity. I love open showers.

by Anonymousreply 75July 24, 2021 2:34 AM

[quote] I never let on that I was bleeding through my Lululemon shorts.

Did IHOP make you clean your seat?

by Anonymousreply 76July 24, 2021 1:41 PM

I prefer them, they are usually CLEANER than cubical showers

by Anonymousreply 77July 24, 2021 1:56 PM

I don't believe in open or enclosed showers. I don't believe in personal hygiene.

by Anonymousreply 79July 29, 2021 2:14 PM

When in the US, OP point and giggle when (OMG) you are near a naked man in an open shower. You can also do it if they drop their towel in the locker room.

Everywhere else in the world go about your business (showering and dressing,)

by Anonymousreply 81July 29, 2021 3:03 PM

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