Erika Jayne's Husband Is 81 inside Her Marriage and Their 32-Year Age Difference

Posted by Zora Stowers on Sunday, May 19, 2024

"The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" alum Erika Jayne is happily married to renowned attorney Thomas Girardi, who happens to be 33 years her senior.

Jayne, who was a divorcée with a young son, shared their love story, how they met, and how their friendship turned into a romance.

When Jayne decided to pursue her dream of becoming a singer at the age of 35, Girardi was her biggest supporter

Erika Girardi at the opening night of BravoCon in November 2019 in New York | Source: Getty Images

THE WAITRESS AND THE LAWYER

Jayne was working as a waitress at a well-known Los Angeles restaurant when she met the then 59-year-old Girardi. The attorney was a habitual client, and the two struck up a conversation whenever he came in. Jayne revealed:

“What really attracted me to him was the way that he interacted with people. This man treats everyone with respect. (...) he acknowledges everyone and looks them in the eye."

Soon, a friendship developed between them, a friendship that would become something more when Girardi asked Jayne out on a date. The romance between the waitress and that attorney quickly blossomed into love, and before long, Girardi proposed.

LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE

Jayne admitted that she knew that Girardi, as a highly successful and powerful man was set in his ways. He had his habits, his way of life which she would have to accept -- as he would accept hers. She became a lawyer's wife and embraced the charity causes he supports.

A FAILED MARRIAGE

And what was important to Jayne was her relationship with Girardi. Jayne's early life had been wrought with difficulties. At 20 she fell pregnant and married her boyfriend Thomas Zizzo, but by 21, Jayne was a single mother and moved to Los Angeles to try and break into modeling and acting.

By the time Jayne met Girardi, she was working as a waitress, modeling and auditioning for parts, and had already landed roles in hit TV shows like "Law & Order," and "High Incident," and acted in TV movies. Girardi was one of the best-known attorneys in the country, with dramatic wins in high-profile cases.

ERIN BROCKOVICH

The Academy Award-winning film "Erin Brockovich" starring Julia Roberts was based on one of his cases against the Pacific Gas & Electric, which ended with the company paying $460 million in compensation to the 650 plaintiffs. Girardi was a celebrity, and he was also 33 years older than Jayne, then just 27.

But, Jayne reveals, she and Girardi had more in common than met the eye. They had both had hard beginnings, facing insurmountable challenges in pursuit of their dreams. She said:

“Tom did not grow up with a silver spoon in his mouth. We both came up the hard way. And we appreciate growth.”

CRITICIZED

In her autobiography, "Pretty Mess," Jayne admits that she knew what the opinions of his friends and family were because of their age difference, but she went ahead with the relationship and married Girardi. She wrote:

“It was always a bigger deal to everyone else than it was to either of us. (...) If you see things the same way, then age, race, religion – none of that comes into play."

ENCOURAGEMENT

When Jayne decided to pursue her dream of becoming a singer at the age of 35, Girardi was her biggest supporter. Jayne counts on his love as the pillar of her life. She said:

“Tom believes in me and he supports me. That’s my favorite thing about our relationship.”

His belief proved to be well-founded. Jayne's first single, "Roller Coaster," hit #1 on the Billboard Hot Dance Club Play chart, as did her second single, “Stars.” And that was only the beginning of her highly successful, critically acclaimed career.

“It shows that I care, and I want him to feel good. And it gives a solid 20 minutes in the morning of one-on-one conversation. It’s a great way to begin the day.”

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